Resentment and anger are healthy emotions if expressed in a healthy and constructive manner. Ranging from a mildly irritating sensation to full-blown rage, anger emerges when we feel directly threatened, whether it is a threat perceived as coming from another person or from ourselves. Sometimes anger is unnecessarily experienced because we rush to judge a situation without taking the time to rationally evaluate it. Alternately, anger can be a normal, justifiable emotion when another individual engages in activity deliberately intended to harm us or our loved ones either emotionally, physically, or both. Regardless of the circumstances, feelings of anger and resentment indicate something is wrong in our lives and needs rectified as soon as possible.
Arising from a deep-seated anger that has never been addressed, addictive behaviors represent a maladaptive response to feelings of anger and resentment that probably originated during an client’s childhood or early adolescence. Clients seeking help at Serenity Now, CMHC are often not even aware of these angry feelings because poor coping skills led them to use substances or other behavioral addictions as a way of escaping from a bad situation.
However, once they have completed the detoxification process and begin to experience emotions that have been suppressed for years, the realization of the intensity of their anger often causes a profound sense of despondency, helplessness and loss. At this stage of recovery, we provide clients with the unconditional support, professional therapy, anger management techniques, and empathetic guidance needed to resolve anger issues and develop coping skills that are healthy and productive.
Anger Management Techniques
Clients at Serenity Now, CMHC are exposed to a variety of anger management techniques as well as therapeutic interventions that help them recognize situations, people or unwanted thoughts that consistently trigger feelings of anger and resentment. By employing proactive approaches to intense emotions, clients can deal effectively with unexpected confrontations that set in motion the compulsive behaviors and distortions in perception which inevitably lead to relapsing.
Our therapists show clients how to release deeply suppressed anger as well as other destructive emotions that are essentially eroding their ability to live a full and satisfying life. Depression is another kind of debilitating emotion that always accompanies long-held resentments against past and present experiences, preventing clients from receiving the love and respect they deserve. Psychologically, depression is anger against the self while aggressive behavior is anger towards the perceived unfairness of the external world.
Our anger management program provides cognitive tools that enable clients to relieve their emotional pain the “right way” instead of the wrong way, i.e., resorting to abusing substances or engaging in addictive behaviors. In addition, clients learn how to identify long-held thought patterns that are conducive to triggering angry feelings. Obsessing about “musts” and “shoulds”, overgeneralizing, assuming before knowing all the facts and blaming others for problems for which the patient is responsible are just a few of the issues relating to effective anger management that Serenity Now, CMHC addresses through a variety of psychotherapeutic counseling and relaxation techniques.